On 1/9/19 5:39 PM, Josh Triplett wrote:
Anthony Towns wrote:On Fri, Jan 04, 2019 at 10:47:05AM -0800, Russ Allbery wrote:People seem to feel they're unreasonably put-upon by having to think about what they're saying *at all*, but this is absurd. Everyone else in the world is doing this all the time.There are times when you don't have to think about what you're saying before you say it; that situation is often called being "among friends", or "in a safe space", or "able to let your guard down".If you have to have your "guard up" to avoid hurting people, you have a more fundamental problem. It really *isn't* that hard to just think about the effect of your words on others *all the time*. As Russ said, that's a fundamental skill. Debian is not a locker room.
On the other hand, when did people get so thin skinned, and offended by everything?
I came across this in a FreeBSD community discussion of similar issues: https://notablelife.com/our-generation-needs-to-stop-being-offended-by-everything-and-learn-how-to-take-a-joke/ - a good read.
One paragraph, that nails it: "The thing is, people are often offended by things that are so minimal compared to the actual problems in the world to which they turn a blind eye. You don’t tend to see many people being ‘offended’ by the fact that there are starving children in third world countries, or making rambling Facebook posts about how access to clean water offends their sensibilities. Yet the second a joke or an ad is slightly offside in their eyes, they lash out like they’ve been a victim of the greatest injustice known to humankind."
Miles Fidelmanp.s., Debian is a place where people get work done. Maybe it is a locker room (or more locker room than ivory tower).
-- In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice, there is. .... Yogi Berra