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Re: When a discussion goes bad...

MJ Ray <mjr@phonecoop.coop> writes:

> Just an aside for future reference: unless the other person is hard of
> hearing, I can't see that approach ending well.  If one can't explain it
> any way that the other person will accept, then I think there comes a
> point when one should reply:

> 1/ "let's see what Joe thinks" - involve someone who understands your
> view, who will hopefully feed back to you more reasonably if the other
> person has a valid point;

> 2/ "the solution must do Y" - challenge them directly to produce a
> solution which meets your criteria; and/or

> 3/ "I'm here, so I win" - pull rank, then shut up and endure the flames.

> Anyone got another way out?

"I don't agree with you, and therefore am not personally willing to put
effort into this.  If you feel that I'm wrong, I don't want to stand in
the way fixing the problem that you perceive, but to the degree that you
want me to do work, you have to convince me.  Some examples of things that
would convince me are A, B, or C.  I also want to make sure that other
things that I think are important aren't broken by the fix for this

Russ Allbery (rra@debian.org)               <http://www.eyrie.org/~eagle/>

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