How to exclude Some but not All dot files?

[cyaiplexys <cyaiplexys@sitesplace.net>]

I'm trying to make a gzipped tarball. I want to exclude only a certain 
list of dot files but NOT ALL dot files (in other words tar the other 
dot files not on the list).

I have (this is just an example):

tar -czf archive.tgz /home/me/dirToARchive/. 
--exclude=/home/me/dirToARchive/.mysetuptemp 
--exclude=/home/me/dirToARchive/.myotherdotfile 
--exclude=/home/me/dirToARchive/.anotherdotfile

In the directory I want to Include *all other* dot files not in the 
--exclude above.

I found it doesn't matter if I put the --excludes before the -czf or 
after everything, I still end up with EVERY dot file in the directory 
instead of ONLY the ones that are NOT on the list.

I'm not great with tar, I admit.

Is there a way to do what I'm proposing?