Re: I resigned in 2004
I only realized after sending this that I was responding to a three
week's old mail. Given that the thread was already painful for all
involved parties, please accept my appologize for that. My intention
wasn't (and isn't) to revive it.
* Rhonda D'Vine <email@example.com> [2018-12-06 16:48:56 CET]:
> * Mattia Rizzolo <firstname.lastname@example.org> [2018-11-12 12:32:17 CET]:
> > On Sun, Nov 11, 2018 at 02:56:14PM -0500, Chris Lamb wrote:
> > > I would be surprised if there were no topics or issues for you
> > > (including outside of the free software world) where reacting in a
> > > ungentlemanly manner is likely given some history or context.
> > I naturally had my own cases of "ungentlemanly behaviour", but I don't
> > think I would be that easy to trigger. This may be arrogant of me, but
> > as a personal policy I try to always "keep my cool"—even if it did cause
> > me sudden lashes when I've been angered (luckily rare…).
> Thing is, just because something is written in a polite way doesn't
> mean it can't be hurtful, and just because something comes across
> brusquely doesn't mean it might not be justified. And willy was
> extremely clear on not wanting a response, and yet you chose to respond
> to it. So willy's anger towards that is very much justified, and
> discussing about that tone is putting the focus on the wrong end here.
> Expecting mistreated people to interact constructively about their
> mistreatment is a tool of oppression and privilege, which you show in
> your other mail:
> > Erm. Again, if one can't deal with such emails, you should really
> > seek help and support elsewhere, IMHO.
> That reads a bit like you intentionally ignored the request to not be
> contacted again, or simply didn't care, and try to justify with this.
> Which is what what I think Chris refers to as victim blaming, that is,
> putting the emphasis for the reaction towards your mistreatment on
> willy, which you make it read like you don't see anything wrong with,
> which is really not cool.
> Please think of your own actions and don't ask others to seek help with
> what you have attributed to.
> Fruits for thoughs,
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