Asheesh Laroia <asheesh@asheesh.org> writes:
On Mon, 4 Oct 2010, Ben Finney wrote:
So when we identify a point of pain, I think it's essential to ask:
is this pain necessary to the learning process for this person?
Ben, I'm not sure what you're saying. It sounds like you're saying,
"The silent treatment is a useful way to teach people humility."
No, I wasn't speaking only of the lack of responses. (I disagree with
your characterisation of it as “the silent treatment”; that carries the
strong connotation that it is a deliberate punishment on the part of
people who actively choose not to reply to each message. That's not a
point I was making in earlier messages, though.)
The discussion has brought in mention of points of pain other than lack
of responses. I am cautioning against a naive and, in my view, incorrect
focus of finding and removing points of pain as though they are
universally bad.