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DEAR ABBY by Abigail Van Buren
MOTHER'S DEFENSE OF THIEVING SON IS TEARING FAMILY APART
By: Abigail Van Buren
DEAR ABBY: My brother, "Dick," was a sheriff's deputy for five years.
He was arrested recently on felony theft charges, stemming from
burglaries committed in the rural area he was assigned to protect.
I gave up on Dick years ago. He has almost destroyed the family farm
by not showing up for meetings and spending money that wasn't his. He
also stole items from the farm, as well as a substantial amount of
cash from our mother.
I am worried about Mother. She knows Dick is guilty, but makes up
every excuse under the sun for him. He takes anti-depressants -- she
blames them. She blames his soon-to-be ex-wife. She blames his
girlfriend who "put him up to the crimes and then turned him in." She
bails him out and lets him stay with her if he wants.
Anything negative my siblings say about him, she takes as a direct
insult. Dick broke Mom's heart years ago, and my siblings and I were
left to pick up the pieces. Now she's allowing him to do it all over
again. He's tearing our family apart. How can we convince her it's
time for tough love? -- TRYING TO HELP MOM IN THE NORTHWEST
DEAR TRYING: It might be better for your brother if you could, but you
can't. Your mother is so fully invested emotionally in your brother
that she can no longer differentiate between him and herself. That is
why, when you criticize him, she takes it as a personal insult. That
is also why she is so determined to "protect" him from the
consequences of his actions. What's sad is, she is not helping your
brother. She's only allowing him to continue his anti-social behavior.
Let's hope the state steps in and prevents your brother from
continuing his criminal activities -- for a while. However, even then,
don't expect him to change until the consequences of his actions
become so severe that he feels he must. Why should he? Until now, his
mother has tossed him a featherbed every time he should have landed on
his fanny. It's called ENABLING.
DEAR ABBY: A few weeks ago, I e-mailed a message to an old friend. I
received a reply from his son, who was handling his father's affairs
after his death a few days earlier. He had no idea who I was.
If he had looked at his father's mailing list, he would have seen a
list of people who would have been interested in his father's demise.
I'm going to code our list now, to indicate who should be contacted in
case of death or serious illness. -- GRIEVING IN MISSOURI
DEAR GRIEVING: Over the years I have received literally hundreds of
letters like yours from people who have lost old friends. These are
people who would have liked to have sent condolences, made donations
to charity, said a final goodbye at the funeral, or shared a happy
experience at a memorial for the friend they lost.
Readers, although none of us likes to dwell on our own mortality, I
don't know of anyone who has managed to last forever. So consider for
a moment the people who care about you. Go through your address book
and note the individuals you think would like to be notified if you
are unable to do it yourself. The task will take only a few minutes.
And leave a note indicating where to find the information with your
important papers.
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